Keep The Main Thing The Main Thing.

I lived in Aspen once, and it was everything I thought it would be: pretty women, lots of money and pretty women who just wanted lots of money. Good thing I didn’t have any money, otherwise I would have ended up fat, sad, naked and broke (Spoiler: I ended up fat and broke).  Being a recent college graduate and an outstanding young man with ambitions larger than life, I had a list of things I wanted to accomplish while I lived in Cougartown, USA. This list included, but is not limited to, start a career path, get fit, play rugby, meet women who know they are too good for me but still want to experience a young buck like myself, save some money and have sleepovers with the Tropicana Winter swimsuit models.

I did not achieve a single one of those goals.

•          Pick a career path (I skied instead).
•          Get fit (I drank beer instead).
•         Play rugby (well, of course I did this).
•          Meet women who are too good for me (I won’t go into detail here).
•          Save money (I spent it all).
•          Bikini models (I will not go into detail here, either. And not for the reasons you are thinking).

I was lost.

The main thing for me was to accomplish all these big goals that I had put on myself ever since graduating college. But here is the problem: I had no long term plan. I had no long term vision. I didn’t even have a direction of where I wanted to head. I simply assumed that by being a good person and making strangers smile the universe would take care of me and drop beautiful women in my lap after a day of deep powder skiing. Unfortunately, I was not that lucky.

Bottom line is this: my behaviors did not match my goals. I would have been so much better off by setting a goal to ski every day, get drunk every night and hope some tourist was lonely enough to come take a ride on the pain-train (We had a train track going through our apartment. Really.)

Think about what YOU want to do. Think about what YOU want to accomplish.

Do your behaviors match up with your goals?

Keep the Main Thing the Main Thing. 

Even if it means going through a few months of demoralizing your self-worth. Trust me, it’s worth it.